As we approach the new year, I think it’s really important to assess our loyalty. Loyalty means a strong feeling of support or allegiance and this is not solely limited to people. Our loyalty can also be towards things, places and mindsets.
What or who we are loyal to can either help or hinder our growth. This is why you may find that in order to really step into what you desire for your future, it may require that you disconnect from things, places, people and mindsets that keep you stagnant.
You see what you desire in your life needs a healthy environment. You need people around you that genuinely want you succeed; you need places and things that will teach you how to thrive and you need a mindset that can help you move towards what you ultimately desire.
You may be thinking ‘how would I know if I am being loyal to things, places, people or mindsets that hinder my growth?’ You will know based on the outcomes you see. Ask yourself these questions in relation to the things, places, people and mindsets:
Are they equipped to help you get to where you want to be?
Are you motivated and inspired to move closer to your goal as a result of engaging with them?
Do they build you up by helping you see your potential in relation to your goals?
Now when it comes to people, I am not saying that you shouldn’t engage with anyone that cannot help you achieve your goals. What I am saying is assess if you have healthy relationships. Healthy relationships embrace growth. So if you have a few people that you engage with who do not have experience that relates to your goals, but they embrace your growth and the changes you make that bring you closer to your goals, they are not people you need to disconnect from.
Nevertheless, it is still important make sensible decisions concerning the people we choose to regularly engage with. We cannot say we desire something and never engage with people with experience in the area we desire. Again this does not mean that every person who has experience is healthy for you to engage with often. Experience does not qualify closeness, character does. This is where your sister-friend ‘boundaries’ comes in. Boundaries can help you shield and nurture your growth and growth is found right outside of your comfort zone.
This is important to mention because sometimes the reason we are loyal to the wrong places, things, people and mindsets is due to familiarity. Familiarity can keep us comfortable but it can also keep us stuck.
The life of your dreams is right outside your comfort zone sis; and that’s why you have to take a look at loyalty through an unbiased lense.
Be loyal to your growth 💛
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